Are you almost feeling the most important examination of your life is round the corner?Do you wonder if the the preparation is good or is it just about enough?Do you already feel like you are policing?Is there restlessness, if not sleeplessness? You are anxious , concerned and doting … you are the parent of a child all set to write the first Board Exam.Relax….. you are not alone.
Students do understand their responsibilities . Some of them realise it early some other as late as now. I share a few thoughts from my personal and professional experience that will ease the pressure on parents .
Create a relaxed home environment
While it is necessary to keep noise levels low to help your ward concentrate , it is essential for you to completely disallow TV , music or guests.It will make you as a parent claustrophobic.However, you may the most important programs that you may wish to view. You can even record or watch on you tube , when your ward is away or is the break time. Do not complain that all the favourite pastimes have gone for a toss. We often hear this -” I am just waiting for the exam to get over . He has exams but it looks like we have them. All entertainment is banned. It is so boring .”It hurts children when they hear this .It makes it seem that you have made all sacrifices.. Soft bhajans or instrumentals in the morning helps to creates peace.
Children make their own time-table . Do go though it and ensure that they are concentrating on all the subjects equally.Have they planned enough short breaks to help them unwind and rewind? Yet , there would be days when the panned schedule goes for a toss . Do not get stubborn and hyper about not following the time table.One cannot police all the time and go by clock-wise precision.Anxiety and frustration will follow.
Have dinner together as a family. I have known families who serve food in the study table so that “she saves time”. Please spare children from that. They need to relax too.During dinner time or soon after , the family could sit together .Do ask them if they are fine and allow them to express fears or apprehensions. Be encouraging and motivating .Give them solutions to the little problems they may face.Do not compare the number of hours of work with those of the other classmates. No comparisons at all.Do not talk about results .They are outcomes of the efforts. It will naturally follow.
Students develop back problems closer to the exams . This is mainly due to bad posture. As parents you must ensure that your ward has a comfortable chair not too cushioned though . Lying on bed or on a couch or an easy chair are certainly a big No-No. They must have frequent short breaks to help them breathe some fresh air and to stretch themselves. Yoga and meditation helps.Air-conditioned rooms is not quite recommended for study . Good sunlight and air room drives energy in that is required for better concentration . The Sun’s rays early in the morning re-energises tired minds. Locked rooms for better concentration is a big No.
When students are at home for the revision holidays , it is natural for them to try to binge or trot up and down the kitchen looking for something to eat or cool drinks.Simple home-made food with a good amount of fruits and salads is highly recommended.Fried foodstuffs should be avoided . It will induce sleep. All colas and caffeines to be kept away ,as also the “energiser drinks”. Fizzy drinks should not even be replaced by fruit juices in tetra-pack.A fruit or a fresh fruit juice blended at home with no extra sugar or salt is the best option.There is no such thing as an energy drink. It is all a mind’s game.Tongue tickling fruit and veggie chaats can easily replace the Lays and choco chips.A schedule and timing has to be followed to bring in food discipline.
Gone are the days when lights were off at 930 pm and were on by 430/5 am.However,sleeping on time and having 7 hours of sleep is essential. Students can have a short nap in the afternoon , if they are tired. A nap helps rejuvenation but a three hour sleep in the afternoon so as to study in the night is inadvisable. Our body follows a natural bio-rhythm ,which should not be disturbed . Change in sleep pattern in order’ to keep with the Joneses” will lead to health issues. Parents need not be sitting with the child all through also helps parents to keep the home atmosphere as natural as possible.
Just one thing
A positive environment aids good learning. Parents should go for brisk walks with their wards and have informal chats with them . This is certainly not the time to discuss future plans -either course of study or career plans or even detail out holiday plans . Let us be in the present with only one thing so as help our ward keep the focus on.
“Just stick to one thing until you get there.” – J Billings