On the occasion of World Woman’s Day, let us all celebrate the exclusivity in us. What is it we must celebrate? – The Power of Womanhood. What is Power? The dictionary definition of Power would be something like this – The ability or capacity to do something effectively and the ability to influence. Power is not about control, not being superior but about being yourself and feeling good about oneself. What is womanhood?- It is about self -belief, self -respect, self-courage, self-dignity. It is only in the past decade that we celebrate womanhood. This piece is to offer our pranams to all the women of the yesteryears who did not ever get an opportunity to celebrate. Because …. they were busy making us all women of substance – each one of us!!!
In our journey of life, we have had a lot of women who have inspired and made a difference in our lives. If each one of us remember our grandmothers who in their own simple ways showed what it is to be ‘power’ful!!! They did so by being tall, having the breadth of experience and depth of knowledge. They ensured that each member in the family inculcated a strength of character, discipline in living, dedication. Most of our grand moms managed their homes and their lives almost perfectly. The doors to their homes were always open and the kitchens always dished out the best savouries and meals anytime of the day. Not a grumble or mumble, not even a sigh when guests poured in unannounced. Broken buttons were mended, vegetables were chopped, skirts were stitched, rice was pounded all while chit chatting with friends and relatives. The bhajan sessions at the neighbor’s house were never missed and the events of family and friends were marked on the calendar well ahead of time and the dates blocked (corporate style). Nothing stopped them from socializing. The absence of driver or the maid was never a deterrent. Home remedies were on the tip of the tongue and were ready for any one who asked for it. Networking was amazing…personal visits and trunk calls kept them connected. When the evenings were free, they would call the maid’s daughter to teach her. Were they not great multi-taskers, managers of time and household, trendy, communicator ….? Hats off to all of them for teaching us through their own ways – the art and science of Management.
Today almost all of us multi-task. We do our best to strike a work – life balance but with one difference. We have an external support system that comes at a price and many a time call the shots. Many of us become helpless when the support system crashes even temporarily. We race against time, not stopping to enjoy the simple and little pleasures. We feel flustered. We have to make time to relax. That needs planning too. Are we going to turn around and say that we live in a complex and competitive? Let us not blame the competitive world. It is there to stay. We must learn from our grannies. They understood the learning styles, ability of every one and the art of communication. Remember how your granny did it?She called out our names early morning till we were all forced to roll out of our beds. She then reminded the kids of the tasks for the day. Holidays didn’t mean we could get up at 12 noon. We could never refuse to perform for the love of granny. From dusting, to watering the plants, to tending to the younger kids, to serving people, we were all meaningfully engaged with lessons and tips for better management falling into our ears like dew drops. The treat of gulab-jamuns, mysore- paks, kissan squashes or ice creams lured us. She was happy doing everything, prioritizing and macro managing. No management degree could beat that skill. For all of this, Grandma practised multiple intelligence and child psychology theories much before we thought them into our classrooms!!!
Women today must pick up a few lessons from the leaves of ” Management – Granny style.” It will make life simple and every task will be enjoyable and not appear as one more responsibility. Just as we think giving a good life to every member in the family is our duty it is the fundamental duty of every parent to make kids realize their duties to their families. Despite time constraints sharing chores helps kids relate to parents and family. Over a period of time, it becomes family time. Women will have more time to read, pursue education, have leisure and strike a balance. It will make every woman more complete, have greater self -belief, is more relaxed and high level of confidence.
A woman is blessed, she is the Creator! She must create and make more beautiful people in this Universe.